Narcissism and Psychic Attack

The most recent generic definition of a psychic attack I can find is this: A psychic attack is an attempted invasion of your energetic boundaries by another person or entity. It’s an attempt to access your energy without permission, and it can come from anywhere—a person, an animal, or even a spirit. There are other variations of this definition, but you get the gist. Psychic attack is something discussed and taught across many different modalities, cultural medicine practices, and healing traditions. It is a crucial teaching for any practitioner in the healing arts, as they work within the energetic fields of others. However, in my experience, the most profound teacher of psychic attack is the attack itself—a wake-up call to the places where our boundaries are weak or leaking.

So, what does psychic attack have to do with narcissism?

We now understand more about narcissism than ever before. There are countless resources available to empower and educate those on the path to recovery after exiting a relationship with a narcissist. However, what remains largely unspoken is how psychic attack is an insidious part of the abuse endured in these relationships. This is where I want to shine a light—exposing what lurks in the shadows and, most importantly, sharing what we can do about it.

As beings—spirits embodied in human form—we exist within multiple layers of consciousness, much like an elevator stopping at different floors. We commonly discuss the conscious mind, the subconscious, and the unconscious. In the conscious mind, we are awake and aware. The subconscious holds our dreams, emotions, and stored beliefs, while the unconscious is even deeper, carrying imprints of past experiences, traumas, and even past lives. These layers are also portals—gateways to information, communication, and astral travel.

We have long known about astral travel—the ability to leave the body during sleep and traverse unseen realms, sometimes to aid others or complete spiritual tasks. This knowledge is well-documented across cultures and lineages, accessible with dedicated research.

Here’s the thing: Beyond the emotional abuse, gaslighting, bullying, and psychological warfare that define narcissistic relationships, there is something deeper, something far more insidious.

In the book Medicine Woman by Lynn V. Andrews, she writes about a powerful Cree medicine woman, Agnes Whistling Elk, who helps her reclaim a stolen sacred object from a dark sorcerer. At one point, Agnes warns Lynn that this sorcerer has the ability to kill without ever laying a hand on his victim. When I read this passage, something inside me clicked—puzzle pieces shifting into place.

Narcissists, especially those deeply entrenched in energetic manipulation, engage in psychic attacks whether they are aware of it or not. Beyond the conscious-level abuse, they send something deeper—something hidden within the subconscious, like a parasite or a spy. It embeds itself within your energy field, acting as an invisible tether that keeps you within their grasp, continuing to drain you even long after you believe you have broken free. Over time, this unseen attack can wreak havoc on your well-being, leaving you depleted, confused, and physically unwell.

This attack may even take form—presenting itself in dreams or meditative states as a creature, an entity, or a specific symbol. Recognizing it is crucial to severing the connection. If you do not have access to the right spiritual guidance, you may need to journey inward alone, though protection and discernment are key.

For me, I had to descend deep into the unconscious to locate it. With the aid of my trusted plant allies—mugwort, lavender, and medical cannabis (which I use for Lyme Disease)—I entered a deep, altered state.

And I found it.

In my dream, it revealed itself as a massive, black spider, its legs tipped with tiny claws that clung to me like hooks. Each time my daughter pulled it off and stuffed it into a blender, she hesitated to turn it on, and inevitably, the spider would return—latching onto my shoulder, my face, refusing to be banished. Now, I love spiders. I honor them as sacred weavers of destiny and powerful spiritual messengers. But this one was different. It was wrong. It carried an energy so foul that I knew—this was the implant, the parasite, the spy that had been feeding off me in the subconscious realms.

When I woke, I moved immediately into ceremony. I called the spider back into my conscious awareness so I could destroy it. I wielded a black arrowhead—a sacred gift from one of my teachers, who had once instructed me to use it for such a purpose. I shredded the entity to pieces, dismantling every fiber of its being until there was nothing left. And when it was gone, I felt something sever. A deep cord had been cut—one that had tethered me to a person who had long sought to control and harm me. I felt free.

Now, does this happen to everyone subjected to narcissistic abuse? Perhaps not in exactly the same way. But I wager it is far more common than we realize.

The toxic energy of narcissistic abuse is vast, insidious, and deeply destructive. It’s a sickness that seeps into the collective, manifesting in the rise of narcissistic leaders and the oppressive systems they create. The sheer magnitude of exposure to their tactics is making people physically ill. We cannot purge or clear fast enough. Every single day must become a ritual of protection, boundary-setting, and energetic sovereignty. Now, more than ever, it is vital to cultivate a daily practice—no matter how simple—that reinforces your spiritual protection. This toxic energy is always looking for a way in. Do not give it one.

There are abundant resources available on the psychological and physiological effects of narcissistic abuse—books, articles, podcasts, and the invaluable work of mental health professionals. I am deeply grateful for those dedicated to educating the masses about this nervous system-shattering experience. Because make no mistake: Narcissism is malicious. It is intentional. It is designed to break you.

And that is why we must commit to rebuilding—step by step, reclaiming our power, our trust, our belief in ourselves. Healing from this kind of abuse is not linear, nor is it quick. We need support, often for years after the fact. But with knowledge, awareness, and spiritual sovereignty, we can sever these ties for good.

You are not powerless. You never were. And now, you are waking up.

I am with you.

With love,
Diana