Boundaries on Social Media
So I get asked a lot about boundaries on social media and what decisions should be made about harmful comments, trolling behaviors and such. I have heard a lot of different methods and techniques over the years and find that I disagree with just about all of them.
You see, boundaries on social media are just like actual life. When people behave badly towards you, do you allow it? I certainly hope not. Sitting with a harmful comment even for a moment is not ideal. You might think you are doing something wise and going within, but in reality you are draining energy spending any time on it at all. You might feel the need to create a whole post about it, or a video to share you experience, yet you are still spending you precious time and energy on something that is draining.
Most of us have experience at one time or another a deeply narcissistic relationship, abuse of some kind, and traumatic experiences big or small. So we are walking this earth learning to heal ourselves, rewire our nervous systems, and support others as well. So why in the world would we spend any of our energy and time trying to sort out some one else’s bad behavior that has absolutely nothing to do with you?
Your time, your space, your energy, your health and well being is incredibly precious for so many reasons.
So listen, when you get one of those hateful comments, block it without hesitation. Remove it from your feed. Cut the cord to a kind of energy you do not need in your life. You are not here to work with those people, you are here to help folks who are listening and working on themselves as well. Holding that sharp boundary sends a very clear message to the person being harmful. It’s an instant and hard NO.
I find that holding a boundary like this is freedom. You are releasing yourself from nervous system disregulation, you are taking care of your body, you will not ruminate, you will not need to seek support. Because you simply said Fuck No.
We will go deeper with this important topic in my new class Unbound & Unfuckwithable.